I have to remeber sometimes to take my own advice.
I just posted earlier about how people's expectations of me get on my nerves. I realize that I can be guilty as well. I do get very disappointed when people don't live up to what I expect. I guess that since I don't expect too much or too little, I thought it was ok. But its not.
What sucks the most is when people don't treat you or care about you the way you expect them too. I may be naiive to believe that that won't change, atleast drastically, but I've been proven wrong. Maybe its not expectations. Perhaps its hope or faith in those people. I understand that people change and grow, but you hope that you are a part of the process.
It hurts when someone you love, does something that makes you think that they don't feel the same way anymore. Its happened to me a few times, and not even in a romantic aspect. I think having a friend do that hurts more than if a significant other does. Unless you're married or in a serious relationship, in the back of your mind, you don't expect this romantic relationship to last forever, so it's not as bad, when they leave you or forget about you or whatever. But with friendships, those real made-retirement-home-plans friends do you wrong.......
I guess I just have to rememer what I said before "Just because I don't do what you wanted or expected doesn't suddenly mean that I'm not the person you thought I was. I'm just not that person all of the time"
That is all
You have inspired me hun! I don't wanna swagger-jack or anything, but I kinda made a reply to the first expectations post. This little comment comes straight from that.
ReplyDeleteExpectations of people. I think I've lost that. I think its really sad that with the exception of maybe my grandparents, I don't put anything past anyone. Even my own parents. I recently found out something really shocking about one of my parents (I don't think I should share because its personal) and it just kind of solidified the already solid boulder of "Don't trust anyone. Don't expect people to be the person you thought they were, because they aren't." People will do you dirtier quicker than shit, especially the ones who you think wouldn't. I understand people have flaws and are human, so showing any type of expectation for anyone, even myself, just seems futile. They'll prove you wrong time and time again.